Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts

romance shomance

It all started with a conversation with a friend. I then started thinking more about it and posed the question to more friends over sushi and wine because it wasn't possible that two of us could think the exact same thing, right? We all agreed. We all laughed, shared our stories and laughed some more.

Romance is dead. Or, at least on life support when it comes to our relationships. I told the BF how all my friends and I agreed that him and his friends need to kick it up a notch when it comes to the romance department. He laughed and went back to watching TV. (Told you romance was dead.)

To further prove my point with the other sex present, I brought it up again with the help of two friends to our boyfriends and husbands over dinner and drinks again. (I was the only non-married one of the group.)

We talked about everything from sex to love to flowers and back to sex again because it might truly be the one thing always on a guy's mind.

Here's what I've come to realize and it will save you subscriptions to Glamour and Cosmopolitan and countless future psych sessions.

Are you ready?

I'm not sure you are.

It's quite earth shattering.

All guys are the same. They are ALL the SAME! There. The secret is out of the bag. You all know it.

So when you think that the other guy is better to his girlfriend, paying more attention to her, buying flowers and making surprise dinner reservations to her favorite restaurant, just know it is one big fat lie!

And, if you don't believe me, I listened to two of my friends share the exact same stories only for their husbands to corroborate each and every one of them.

What you might have overheard from our table:
"That shit only happens because it's a new relationship."
"I want kissing for the hell of it."
"We need more spontaneity."
"I just want a little cuddling, not a lot, just a little."
"Why do you always have to grab them?"

And, to quote one of the guys, "Well ladies, at least you know you aren't holding out for anything else because we are all the same!"

How do you kick up the romance again in your relationship? What do you do?
All tips and tricks will be shared with all of my girlfriends who always share their opinions and feelings with me, no matter how ridiculous they are.

Editor's Note: Most of our conversation was around sex, as it normally is when my friends and I get together. How much are you having? Is it enough? Does it last long enough? How do you keep things fresh? Do you role play like Phil and Claire from Modern Family? You know, those kind of things. However, knowing certain family members read this blog, I decided to keep it a PG and tongue-in-cheek rather than them picturing something else.

Tween boys are what it's at

Thursday, December 4, 2008
For all those women out there who say there are no more good men, that they are all taken or gay, it's because they aren't 30 or 40, they are 8-years-old!

I read about this story the other day and thought CNN must've messed up their headline.

What?

An 8-year-old wrote a dating book. Bullshit. And Britney Spears' latest photos in Rollingstone weren't airbrushed.

Pllllleeease.

Leave it to the Today Show to interview this young Huge Hefner. You know he's a pimp at recess. He's turning down kickball games left and right to accommodate his dating schedule. He's juggling three or few girls at a time.

Men, take notice. If you thought you could date younger women, we are going to take it one step further and pull a Mary Kay Letourneau on your ass.

Demi Moore, eat your heart out.

Lady in Red

Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Are you single? Not getting laid as often as you like? Think about what colors you typically wear, and it could have something to do with that. No shit. Forget how popular deep colors are this season and throw those out of your mix.

Start rocking red says a psych professor and Chris De Burgh. Maybe he was onto something?

Excerpt from the article on MSNBC:

"Men rated a woman shown in photographs as more sexually attractive if she was wearing red clothing or if she was shown in an image framed by a red border rather than some other color, U.S. researchers said on Tuesday."

OK, not buying it.

"The men also were asked, "Imagine that you are going on a date with this person and have $100 in your wallet. How much money would you be willing to spend on your date?" When she was clad in red, the men said they would spend more money on her."

What!? Do they not know that red isn't an "in" color right now? Plus, it doesn't look good on all skin types. And this isn't the early 90's where men loved the red lips/skin tight dress of Cindy Crawford either.

Personally, I don't look good in a bright red because I'm pretty pale - not a whole lot of skin pigment going on. Maybe a more muted burgundy, but definitely not Valentine's day red. Unless you are of Latin descent, I don't think red will look that fabulous on you. Although, I could be wrong about this.

Ladies, when you are going on a date, how much, if any, do you pay attention to color? And, that includes coordinating what's underneath the clothes as well.

Friday Fodder

Friday, July 11, 2008

Marriage tips? From a priest? I'm still not a believer.

A 79-year-old priest is giving out marital advice and apparently people are listening.

Most of what he said can be ripped from any issue of Cosmo or even Men's Health.
Obviously you can't change a person. And, I'm always weary of girls/guys who don't have a close group of friends. There is an issue there. I don't care what anyone says. And, if the priest is agreeing with me, something is either very wrong or very right.

Name your deal or deal breaker.

Thursday, April 17, 2008
A reader and co-worker forwarded me this article from reporter John Campanelli from the Cleveland Plain Dealer yesterday.

When we start dating someone, we all have a list of traits we absolutely won't stand for in a guy or girl. For me, I'm not into smokers, womanizers, guys with no close group of friends, a guy with no career aspirations or someone who isn't comfortable in large groups of people. Non-social guys are a big no-no in my book. They don't mix with my crowd of peeps or personality type.

In this article, it's actually refreshing to read a man's opinion and he speaks with a woman who talks about her "deal breakers." He even interviews a relationship expert weighs in on some common "deal breakers" --

"While deal-breakers vary from person to person and relationship to relationship, there are a few universal ones, says Marshall:

• When you are working harder than the other person, always making the calls, setting up the dates, fixing the problems -- deal-breaker.


• When you find yourself preoccupied with the future because the present is unbearable ("Things will be great as soon as he gets a job," "She just needs a vacation and she'll be in the mood") -- deal-breaker.

• When the other person keeps projecting or casting you in roles ("You were checking out that guy," "I know you didn't call me last night because you went to the strip club with your friends") -- deal-breaker."

So, readers, name your deal breaker(s).

What kind of man are you dating?

Thursday, August 16, 2007
..............."What kind of man are you dating" is the last lead-in I heard blasting from my TV this morning as I decided on bronze or pewter flip flops in my unorganized closet. I literally repeated Meredith's lead-in out loud...you've got to be kidding me. I immediately thought of those cheesy quizzes from YM and Seventeen I used to take in junior high where it said what kind of girlfriend you'd be, guy you'd date or if you are bitch or not. So lame. I don't know if you can classify "the man you are dating" with a few character traits or not. But after another morning of being talked to, asked questions and pretty much annoyed by the B.F., I figured I might as well test my relationship and define the boy that I'm living with.

Editor's note: I hate being talked to in the morning, especially annoyed or nagged by anyone. I want to get ready, fill my brain with headlines from the Today Show, and head into work. In high school, my would come in my room and comment on the clothes on the floor and how I needed to clean up. Or, the fact that I had wet towels laying on the carpet. Duh, I just got out of the shower. Note to mothers, your child doesn't care what his or her room looks like at 7:30 a.m. and probably never will because I still don't. My mother would be so proud.

Screw it, I don't know what the B.F. is classified as, but Ryan Gosling's character, Noah, from the Notebook is one of the choices and that is what I want. Right there! Forget the rock, doer or thrill seeker, every girl wants to date Ryan Gosling.